EXCERPT
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! ,
braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also
likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.
No evidence of this in any piece of literature. The only time I’ve
seen hair pulls is in girl fights and domestic violence incidents.
I’ve never heard of a stranger attack that was initiated by a hair grab
or pull.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around to cut clothing
Not true. Clothing may be a factor in some rapists’ justification
(“she was dressed like a slut. she wanted it”), but ease of removal is
not a concern. If so, hospital patients wearing gowns would be the most
raped population in the world. So would any medical professional
wearing scrubs as a uniform. They aren’t.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching
through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they
are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
True
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
False. Number one location is in or around the woman’s home.
5] Number three is public restrooms.
Really? Wouldn’t a guy garner a little attention if he entered a woman’s restroom?
6] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have
to worry about getting caught.
Possible, but only in a “stranger rape”. Most rapists are people
who are familiar to the victim and the rapes occur at the victim’s home.
7] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
Partially True
8] These men said they would not pick on women who have
umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in
their hands.
No research supporting this.
9] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close
to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these guys you’re not worth it.
True. Punching with keys doesn’t cause much damage and usually hurts the puncher as well.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage
or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and
ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter.
Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line-
up, you lose appeal as a target.
Maybe, but no guarantee. A better option is to be more forceful and direct in ordering him to get away.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front
of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked
to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an
EASY target.
Good advice…but most effective against strangers.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate
of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE
PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
No. Keep it hidden until you use it. If you pull it out and
threaten me with it, I’ll cover my eyes, move in and take it from you.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you
can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist
from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow
and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class
this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who
was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the
skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try
pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really
hurts.
Doesn’t work if the rapist has a diminished pain response, is high, mentally ill, or drunk.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from
a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts
it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy
and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
Not a terrible target, but not the best either. Go for eyes or throat.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two
fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without
using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
cracked audibly.
May work, but it depends on the situation
7. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the
back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving
like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This
has saved lives.
8 If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from
the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by
pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into
their cars.
Completely false.
9. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle,
and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat
nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and
get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE
SAFE THAN SORRY.
(And better paranoid than dead.)
10. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
Generally good, but not always. What if there is a creepy guy in
the elevator? I had a student who was raped in the elevator of her own
office building.
11. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,
ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100
times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
Good advice. The stat isn’t perfect, but probably pretty close.